Why Women Should Be Dating Multiple Men
Dating multiple men? What do you mean date, multiple men?
We as women are somehow taught that it is a bad thing.
We as women, also like to jump ahead and get into a committed relationship right away.
But have we ever really looked at the benefits of not jumping right in if he asks on the third date, or even after a month of dating?
We’ve just always assumed it’s the right thing for us to do, the good girl thing, the secure thing to do.
But what if I told you there was a much better way for you? A way to have the relationship you want but by taking your time and exploring all your options.
After all, when you buy a car, you take the time to research and get to know about the models and also take it for a test drive, so why not do the same in dating men?
Ladies, let me introduce you to Symphonic Dating!
Symphonic Dating means dating multiple men.
Just like a symphony orchestra has multiple instruments playing many melodies, there are many different types of men who are singing their melody for you, and you get to decide who is harmonizing with you the best.
In Symphonic Dating, you want to date multiple men, at least three at a time in your dating orbit.
It’s a chance for you to open your possibilities to new men who maybe you normally wouldn’t be open to dating.
The man I am with I had opened my possibilities to date him, and he is the man of my dreams!
I would never have dated a man younger than myself before and in all his pictures he was frowning which was a turn-off for me! But his photos were deceiving…he is the opposite of grumpy.
When you feel them out before a date and they are a nice guy (always trust your gut and intuition here vetting them first for safety), then go out with them.
If you had a nice time, go out with them for at least four dates as attraction may grow and you are just beginning to know them.
After four dates there isn’t any chemistry, let them go and let someone new into the dating orbit take their place.
The Auction Effect in Dating
Let’s talk about a certain online auction site you have all most likely heard of.
When you are searching for hard-to-find items sometimes, if you are lucky, there is a Buy Now button.
The price is generally much higher than you’d want to pay or might pay in an auction, but you can be assured of getting the item.
In this case, you hit the Buy Now button, pay the asking price, and wait for it in the mail, all within a few minutes of your time.
Now let’s talk about an auction.
So, there is either no Buy Now button, or maybe you want to take a chance on an auction.
You go in and hit the auction button, set the highest amount you are willing to bid, and note the day and time the auction ends.
During this time before the auction will end, you keep checking to see if you are still winning the auction.
If not, you decide whether to up your highest bid amount or quite the auction. You decide to continue bidding and through the time the auction lasts, you keep repeating this cycle.
You keep anxiously checking and investing more time and money.
If you win the auction, how does that feel?
It feels amazing and thrilling to have beaten out all those other bidders and the time and money you put in make the object that much more valuable to you.
But how does this apply to dating?
Men generally ask within the first month of dating to be exclusive.
In other words, the Buy Now button.
They’ve gotten you off the market as soon as possible so that they don’t have to work hard or invest much into winning the prize, which is you!
Once they have you off the market they can kick back and relax and put on cruise control.
By putting off being exclusive with a man, now it is the Auction Effect.
While he is dating you and you are dating other men, he will have to work harder to win you.
He will be investing his time and money over a longer time dating you. Similar to investing more time and money toward that auction.
You’ve become invested in winning, and when you do it means so much more!
What do you do when he asks you to be exclusive?
You can say, “It feels good getting to know you, and what we have, there is no pressure, but for now wish to keep my options open.”
If you are looking to get married down the road you can also express that by saying, “I want to be married. I want to be a wife”.
You are not saying you want to marry them as you are just getting to know them, but you are laying out what you are looking for in the future.
If the man says he doesn’t want to see you anymore after you convey this, then he isn’t willing to put in the work to pursue you.
A true masculine energy man will not be deterred by it and will continue to pursue you.
The next part is the best part, you date until you get the commitment you want!
That could be until you’ve really gotten to know him after dating for many months and you are looking for a long-term relationship, he asks you to move in together, or even until a man proposes!
There is nothing that says you can’t keep your options open until you have a ring on your finger!
A man’s dating timeline and a woman’s dating timeline are far different.
Women see it as a few dates, he asks to be exclusive, and you’re over the moon and say yes believing it will lead to marriage.
A man’s dating timeline is getting you off the market as soon as possible and then he can sit back and coast for years.
He may eventually ask you to get married, but there are no guarantees.
He has you off the market and can take his time, as long as he wants while women wait and wait and wait.
A man will only ask a woman to marry him when he feels inspired by her emotionally and can’t live without her.
A woman must know her self-worth (again you are the prize!)
Symphonic Dating will create the Auction Effect as well as give you a chance to get to know a man and if his actions are consistent and match his words.
It gives you time to explore if he really is the right one for you while allowing other men to step up as well and you to learn what you really want with a man and what type of relationship.
What else is involved in Symphonic Dating?
Another big part of Symphonic Dating is dating yourself! This is something I encourage for BOTH dating ladies and ladies who are in relationships or married. If you are already in a relationship, having a life outside your significant other can make them more curious about you too! Self-care is very attractive to men! If you are taking care of yourself, this means both outside and inside, this will intrigue a man. We all know what taking care of the outside means: taking care of how we dress, our hair, maybe a manicure or pedicure, taking care of our skin, a spa day, etc.
How about taking care of the inside? What sparks joy inside you? Maybe it’s taking a class you’ve always wanted, joining Meetup groups to meet new people, singles groups, dance classes (there are classes for women only such as Bellydancing, Hula, and Pole Dancing), exploring new hobbies, or making sure to have quality time with friends and family. It looks like having a full life. Maybe a date cancels on you, take yourself out to dinner and a movie! When you create a fulfilling life outside of men, they become curious about you. When a man asks you out and you have a full life and aren’t available because you have classes or other dates, he will see your value as even greater!
I encourage women to give Symphonic Dating a try. It really gives you a chance to experience different men. You get time to get to really know each man and to see if their actions are consistent over time, after all, actions are more important than words!
Symphonic Dating feels empowering as this also gives you the chance to be the chooser. The man can ask for exclusivity, but it’s up to you to choose. When and if he asks you then get to state what it is you are wanting in the future, a long-term relationship, living together, or getting engaged while keeping your options open until you receive the desired commitment level.
